Thursday, March 10, 2011

On the Home Stretch

Yep, we're on the home stretch to move from CA to IA. We still have 10 more months, which may seem like a long time, but in all reality it flies by a lot faster than you think. We're in March now, and then there's April. April brings our anniversary (6th), General Conference (2nd and 3rd this year), and a swap meet where i'm putting up a table for Pampered Chef (22nd). April also brings the mother in law's birthday (26th), the in-law's anniversary (22nd), Easter (24th), and a family celebration at Ian's grandparent's house (23rd). Then we have May, which brings the end of Ian's semester at school, the father in law's birthday (5th), McKenna's birthday (6th), Mother's Day (2nd Sunday of month) and the warmer weather for parks and swimming.

June brings Father's Day (3rd Sunday), my dad's birthday (29th), more warmer weather, and having Ian off school for the semester. July brings my sister's and my BEST FRIEND'S birthday (love you Lacey) on the 2nd, a fun food holiday (4th), and this year it brings a Family Reunion in UTAH. Yay for us being able to travel and see family, most of whom we haven't seen in 10 years since the last big family reunion in AZ. August brings my birthday (2nd), Ian's birthday (24th), my brother's birthday (11th), more warmer weather and the start to Ian's last semester of school EVER!!!!!

September brings cooler weather as it heads into winter. October brings another round of General Conference, Halloween, and more cooler weather. November brings Thanksgiving and Black Friday. December brings Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and New Years Eve. It's also the last month that we're in CA so it will be the busiest. Ian will graduate with his AA in December and we'll be finalizing paperwork on where we'll be living and making sure everything is lined up.

So you see, even though it's still 10 months away, it'll fly by faster than we know. Hang on for the ride of your lives.... Stay tuned for happier updates from me as I figure out who I am and what I want in life, and how to take things a day at a time.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Christmas 2010




Here are pictures from Christmas.

New Year, New Us Video

New Year, New Us





Here are the pictures I finally promised. Sorry they're taking so long, it's been a long and hectic winter with no internet, Ian and I both working, and other things.

It's still January, here are my goals for the year:
1. Losing 20-30 lbs. That would put me between 140-150, which is a comfortable weight. I was 140 in college and a size 8 jeans. I don't care that "America" wants me to be 119.5. Not happening...;
2. Reading scriptures more often, even if it's only a couple verses, or 1 topic each night (tithing, fasting, whatever I may be struggling with);
3. Saying personal prayers more often, and really giving myself to Heavenly Father when I pray to him; listening more rather than closing out the prayer and climbing in bed. He listens to us, why can't we take a couple minutes to listen to Him;
4. Having debt paid off to tuck money away for the future;
5. Get settled into our new place after Ian graduates, and staying settled down. I would LOVE to not be moving every 6 months-1 year of our marriage, like we have been. The girls need stabilization. Hunter is almost ready for school, and I don't want to keep moving her;
6. Build a happier family for us by spending less time watching tv or on the computer, and more time at the park, pool, walks, mall, or whatever it may be that the girls want. They're only young once.

I'm excited for what this year has to hold, and rather than dwelling on the negatives that have happened (Ian's hours will drop in February, I just lost my job yesterday, we're having to move to keep from being evicted, Ian's taking 3 classes while we're living with his parents, and working through some recent struggles in our marriage), I want to focus on the positive. HE will bless us if we are true, faithful, positive and try.

That's all. Enjoy the pictures and little videos I took.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Light at the end of the tunnel

After a rough start in August when we got moved to Rocklin, we have finally come to a point in our lives where we're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Or at least I am... It's been 2 months of rough living, but we're starting to do better.

We moved into our new apartment which we call "home" the end of August. We had our Jeep break down 2 days after moving in. We had a mechanic working on our Jeep, who somehow blew the sensor for the oil light and didn't tell us. We found out we were low on oil the day after moving in, and put oil in that night. The next morning, Ian started driving to class and had a rod blow, which put a hole in the engine. We didn't owe anything on it, and had no money for a new engine, so we sold it to the shop that it was towed to.

Ian started back to school at Sierra College in August. He is finishing up his AA in Computer Tech. He will then take a semester off (I think), and go for his Bachelor's. He will be done with his AA in July, which is good since our lease is up in June. He had a rough start with his grades, but he's doing better week after week, and got a 90% on his first set of midterms. Finals are the first week in December, then he's off until January, when he'll go back for his 2nd Semester.

I was let go from Sears the end of September, at the end of my 60 days. I went back to the law firm in Lincoln, and I'm working 2 days a week there. It's not much, but it helps us out. I've also started doing Pampered Chef, which helps us out a lot. I LOVE the business and the products, and the commission is awesome too.

Here are some pictures of the girls from Halloween. I'll make sure to take pictures of our new place, and some new pictures of Ian and I with our weight loss. Those will probably be posted this weekend.

McKenna dressed as Tinkerbell, Hunter as Cinderella and Lucy as Silvermist. Lucy is Hunter's BEST FRIEND, and she lives upstairs from us.
McKenna smiling big for the camera.

Hunter smiling big for the camera before we left to go trick or treating.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Facebook status/my insomnia

I watch this show every week about a young couple who gave their daughter up for adoption, to give her a better life. They also have a semi-open adoption just like I do, and tonight's episode the boyfriend/fiancee was having trouble coping with the adoption and how to grieve properly. Their daughter is 1.5 and they've only seen her 1 time, as they were handing her over to her new parents outside of the hospital. They get pictures and e-mails just like I did, and they're 17 while I was 19, but still....

Watching him cry made me cry, and yet McKenna was asleep on my lap, Ian was in the bedroom, and Hunter was in her bed. I had no one to talk to. I sometimes wish that our next baby will be a boy, so I can see what I'm missing. I don't want to live my life thinking "what if... I would've kept Andrew", "what if....", but deep down I know I made the best decision. I gave Andrew 2 parents that could love him, and then created the opportunity for them to have a family of their own with their own biological kids, so I essentially was the missing piece to putting Kortnie and Kaitlyn in the family with David, Jami and Andrew. I was the missing piece to give David and Jami the gift of Andrew, after their loss of Kiley, and creating their lives and the births of Kortnie and Kaitlyn.

Deep down I know there's a son out there that will be born to Ian and I, that will help me to grieve, and help me to grow and heal after 5.5 years of not having a chance to. I don't regret my decision to place Andrew with David & Jami, cuz I know they have given him more than I could've even tried to give him being a single mom. I just wonder... when is my time??? When is Heavenly Father going to give me a second chance to raise a son of our own/my own?? One that I can take home from the hospital, one that I can raise with Ian, one that will be Ian and mine, not someone else's??? Will that ever happen????

And on to another crying fit, so I can't type anymore. I'm sorry if I put any of you to tears, I guess I just have a lot in my head and a lot going on. We have a move that we're not financially ready for, but we know it's for the best of us, we have a marriage without temple recommends (and who knows when bishop will feel like we're ready for them), we haven't been to the temple in AGES... like 3 years...., and yet that's the thing that I need the most right now, and I can't even have it....

I want the best for our girls, and I want us to be out of this financial hole that we're in. I want to be OFF assistance, both from the church and the state, and yet every time I'm ready to cut them off, something happens and we're right back on it.... will this ever end??? Will I survive tomorrow, with having to get up in 7 hours for work, and then a day of packing, shopping and more packing, and oh yeah, dealing with 2 kids that get into everything??? Will Ian and I ever go to the temple??? Will Ian and I ever have a son??? Will we ever have our own house, and be happy with where we're at?? Or will we always be moving every year???

I know the best answer is to pray, and yet I feel like I can't. I feel like I need Lacey, like I need my mom, like I need someone that can talk to me, that will know what i'm going through... I need my cousin Sharon, cuz I know she can help me, but I don't have her number. Why is it when you need someone the most, no one is there for you???

And yes, we're trying to get you pictures of the girls up on the blog. Ian packed up the cords for the USB cable to hook the camera up to the computer, so you'll have to wait even longer. Sorry....

My love to all.....

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

July ups and downs, and another weight update

Ok, so after me venting on Facebook these past couple days, I think i'm good. We have had some trials come through, but we've also been blessed. On Saturday we had a truck back into us in the parking lot of our apartment complex. He told us that he wasn't looking and didn't see us, but that he would take care of everything. We exchanged information and went on our way after taking pictures. On Sunday I called the insurance and turned in the report of the accident, and on Monday we found out the driver of the truck is not insured. Our insurance told us that because we have uninsured motorist coverage, that they will still be able to compensate us for our losses, and that the driver of the truck will need to pay the insurance company back. We took it in for inspection yesterday, and found out there's at least $1600 in damage just from that "small dent" that he created when he hit us. Ian was able to get a rental car for free (courtesy of our insurance policy coverage) and now we have a rental through Monday, at the very least. We got a call this morning and found out that now there's at least $2200 in damage. So, there's about $2200 in damage, plus the $500 deductible that he owes since he's uninsured, plus the replacement of McKenna's car seat.

We also had a small set back this morning when we woke up and opened our blinds to our patio. We discovered that our cans and bottles were missing. We had 4 Garbage Bags FULL of them, and then 2 grocery bags full of cans and bottles. We got mad, tried to figure out who would do this to us, then exercised it off. After exercising, eating breakfast and getting dressed, we went over to the apartment office and talked to the manager. She is letting us out of our lease a month early (our lease was up Sept. 30 and now we'll be out August 31). I'm excited to be moving sooner, and hopefully have a new place where Hunter and McKenna can play on the park. The park we have outside our door continues to be graffitied, and I don't feel right letting Hunter play on it. I know that you'll always have problems of some kind wherever you live, but I also know that enough is enough. When it comes to vandalism and stealing, you shouldn't have to put up with that, no matter where you live.

We're excited to be moving sooner, and save on gas for when Ian starts school on August 23. I'm excited that I got the job at Sears, and we will have more income coming in now. I'm also excited for Ian and I's weight loss. Here's the stats:

Ian BMI: 31.00
Ian weight: 228.8

Jenn BMI: 30.95
Jenn weight: 168.2

That's a total weight loss for Ian of 11.2 lbs since we got married 4 years ago, but a total weight loss of 31.2 lbs since we started the Wii Fit in February. When I met Ian, he was a size 40 jeans and a size XL shirt. Now he's in a size 38 jeans, and a size Large shirt. There really is a HUGE difference in the two of us.... It really does work, if you use it in coordination with the healthy lifestyle and correct food choices. Who knew losing weight could be fun???

I have lost another 3 lbs or so since I last posted, but I'm down 21.8 lbs since we started in February. Every step counts. I am now in a size 12 shorts/pants, and in a size large shirt. When I met Ian, I was in a size 14 pants and a size XL shirt, and I weighed 8 lbs less than my current weight. Interesting how that works out...

I should be posting pictures of the girls this afternoon. Stay tuned...